Monday Musing: Soul mates

Be ready for two stellar posts today! This really was supposed to go up yesterday, but the internet in my apartment was a failure and I had prioritize. Homework? Or write a blogpost? Homework won out. It just has to sometimes.

So anyway, soul mates...do they exist? What are they? And  how do we find our soul mate if they do exist?

First, this is just my opinion, so please don't get upset if you don't agree. I would actually like to hear opinions in the comments. So read and then let me know, lovelies.

This semester, I have had the wonderful opportunity to take a Marriage Prep class. At first, I was hesitant because there is always a stereotype that is put on the students who take it. The marriage hungry returned missionaries and desperate girls who can't get a date. I have foundd this to be entirely not true, and I have also found that the class has had a profound and beautiful impact on my life.

I found this to be particularly true yesterday (Monday). We talked about soul mates...my professor started with saying that we wouldn't be tested on the information, it was just important to talk about. I thought that was beautiful too. We were talking about something that she felt was important. It was a time for all of us to share emotional things. Things that were close to our hearts. It was a wonderful class discussion. Here are some things that we (and myself) concluded.

Soul mates do and do not exist. It is a pretty complex matter, so bear with me.

There are no such thing as soul mates in the context that there is JUST ONE person out there for you. There are soul mates in the context that you find someone that you grow with. Someone that is perfect for you, that helps you strive to be perfect. President Dieter F. Uchtdorf said that soul mates are, "the one person you are meant to be with. The person that is perfect for you." The only thing is that there can be multiple ones for you, he also said about his wife Harriet, "Though I am deeply in love with Harriet, I don't believe that I was her one moment and chance for happiness, nor was she my one moment and chance for happiness. But once you commit to being married, your spouse becomes your soul mate."

Your soul mate is someone who makes you better. Someone that you can't be without because you are not complete without them. You do not feel whole. You lose parts of you when they are gone.

President Spencer W. Kimball said, "The only chance to perfection is creating it together with your spouse...your soul mate."

I will say now that I completely agree with the words I quoted above, but I believe other things when it comes to soul mates.

I believe the following...it can all be summed up in this...

Courtesy of Tumblr, Pinterest, and all things lovely.

Some may find this weird, but I truly believe that a soul mate can be my best friend. A person I connect spiritually and emotionally with. Someone who knows me better than I know myself. I feel like I have musical soul mates. Tumblr soul mates. My parents can be my soul mates in some ways (just not in that weird romantic, too attached way...you know?) I am not even trying to take away from the beauty and sacredness of soulmates. I'm just saying that we can share pieces of our soul with just about everybody. We can see into the souls of others. That is so lovely to me.

To find these people though, there is a price that must be paid. And what is that price?

The price is to become the person we want to be our soulmate. We must become who we want to love. Are we a deal breaker?

In class we learned a FORMULA FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE!

1. Proper approach to marriage.
You must date.
You must bring out the best in each other.
2. Great unselfishness.
We must have a heart at peace.
We have to be unselfish for our new little family.
3. Continued courtship and affection.
4. Keep and live the commandments.

Also, make a list of the important things. Not just the physical things, and BECOME THOSE THINGS! Act now.

To close I'd like to share another quote by President Uchtdorf.

"Stop waiting for someone to make you whole. Do what you can to fulfill your duty as a child of God."

Whether you think soul mates exist or not, I feel like there are people out there who can complete us. Those that make us whole. We just need to do the right things to find that person. We must be on the right track. We must become the soul mate we want.  We will not be forgotten in this journey to find our true love. I know it.